bluecoconuts
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Do you think men that do those things are going to change all of a sudden?
Shouldn't we?
I'm being serious, I see this argument all the time, so I'm not picking on you specifically or anything, but shouldn't we men change? And shouldn't we men drive other men to change? Hold them accountable for their actions?
A few weeks ago I was requested to pull a security guard shift at a very upscale hotel in Downtown LA, it's probably the nicest hotel in LA now (it's also new). My job was to stand by the pool with another guard while some art fashion show went on.
The key word there is art, not fashion. Because there wasn't much clothes. And when I say not much, I mean none. The show was a bunch of naked girls with weird things on their head. These girls were models, very good looking.
My job was to stand between them and the small crowd of other artists there to make sure they had plenty of room to move around.
My job was not to stare at the girls or even watch the show. They would walk down towards me and I was to maintain eye contact, not stare at tits and ass all night. Afterwards my job was to take them down to their cars (dressed) so they could go.
I sexually assaulted or raped the exact amount of women I wanted to that night. Zero. It's not hard, really. It's not hard to not stare at tits.
So I have a hard time accepting the idea that men will be men, or we can't help ourselves, or you can't blame us for looking or being tempted. We're the smarter species on the planet, we know better.
To me anyone, girl or guy, should be able to wear whatever they want without suddebly being "asking" for it or shouldn't be surprised or anything like that. It's not their fault, it's the fault of the aggressor/attacker.
Shitty people will do shitty things, that's just gonna happen, and I get that. But I don't understand why men who don't do that type of stuff will excuse it as just men stuff. I'm not about that life, I don't want to be included with those people, why would I?
Maybe it's just me, but I feel like we're at a point we should be saying "Nah, fuck those guys" and shaming them, rather than making excuses.