Guys, I have an alcohol problem

[RamUK]

I am sooo fucking over this but I keep slipping back. I'm sorry if I'm bringing the board down. I'm smart and read ever quit lit book but I'm clearly not smart enough. I fucking need help

 

[RamUK]

And btw this is why im sometimes a fucking douche. I'm sorry

 

[Tano]

Sorry to hear about this

 

[SteezyEndo]

I am sooo fucking over this but I keep slipping back. I'm sorry if I'm bringing the board down. I'm smart and read ever quit lit book but I'm clearly not smart enough. I fucking need help

It takes a lot of courage to admit personal issues, thats already a step in the right direction. Alcohol is a serious vice, and can be dangerous when not respected. I am working on my alcoholic intake, I am not going to stop completely because I enjoy it, but I am respecting it more to the point where I can control myself especially emotions. It feels better anyways to be able to have a drink and enjoy it without all the harshness that comes from being intoxicated. Hope you find the help you need…

 

[Memento]

Hey, it's okay to admit that you need help; it makes you stronger in the end. That's always a good first step. My sister was an alcoholic (in addition to drugs; thankfully she's recovered enough to have the occasional drink), so I understand addiction. The very first step you need to take is understanding that you have a problem and wanting to fix it. If you have a therapist, talk to them about it. If you need to go rehabilitate, take it as an opportunity to get help for your alcohol problem.

I wish you nothing but the best in your fight, and we'll be here when and after you kick that thing's ass.

 

[RamUK]

Hey, it's okay to admit that you need help; it makes you stronger in the end. That's always a good first step. My sister was an alcoholic (in addition to drugs; thankfully she's recovered enough to have the occasional drink), so I understand addiction. The very first step you need to take is understanding that you have a problem and wanting to fix it. If you have a therapist, talk to them about it. If you need to go rehabilitate, take it as an opportunity to get help for your alcohol problem.

I wish you nothing but the best in your fight, and we'll be here when and after you kick that thing's ass.

Thanks mate

 

[12intheBox]

Good first step. I have seen too many lives blown up by addiction. Get someone you can talk to consistently about it - someone to hold you accountable. Trying to do it alone is much tougher.

 

[Tano]

My wife is an alcoholic and she has been off the stuff since 1998. I am very proud of her for her to be able to do this.

 

[RamUK]

My wife is an alcoholic and she has been off the stuff since 1998. I am very proud of her for her to be able to do this

She rocks!

 

[RamFanWA]

Dude - go get 'em. Great first step. I hope you can find local support, it would be tough to go it alone.
Seriously though, no condemnation here - everyone has some issue they wish they didn't have. Some easier, some more difficult to conquer.

 

[OldSchool]

It's not an easy battle having loved ones that went through it and I was sober for about 8 years before I developed the self control to moderate myself. I will say one thing is almost universally true for people that quit and are successful at staying away. You need somebody's help. Doesn't matter who, a spouse, a child, a friend or a stranger you're willing to talk to(counselor not sure what they'd be called over there) but you need assistance. Trying to do this alone is the wrong way to do it. Reach out to somebody get a person in your corner willing to help willing to go to bat for you and follow through.

It's not easy but we all have faith in you.

 

[fearsomefour]

What do you do when you get bored or anxiety?
This was always a trigger to drink for me.
But, everyone is different.
Try and find some good hobbies....something creative that takes some time investment and practice is great.
Exercising can be great as well.
A "drinking problem" can mean 100 different things. Ive know people that drink every day until they are blurry eyed and slurring. Others don't drink often but when they do they are out of control and damage relationships, work etc.
Try to find a local support network if needed....they are nearly everywhere now.
Don't be too proud to ask for help and you shouldn't beat yourself up if you need help. There is zero shame in needing help or having an issue.
Hang in there and don't give up!!

 

[OnceARam]

I am sooo fucking over this but I keep slipping back. I'm sorry if I'm bringing the board down. I'm smart and read ever quit lit book but I'm clearly not smart enough. I fucking need help

Your 'thinking' cannot get you out of where you are, no matter how smart you are.

My father was an active alcoholic and he died a horrible, lonely death.

1) Go to AA meetings every day and talk to other people who understand what you're dealing with.

2) I would also recommend watching videos of Paul Hedderman of Zen Bitch Slap. The ones where he talks about AA/ 12 steps.

Here's one to get you started;


View: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ns8vkmCdPpc

 

[RamDino]

All i can say is keep the faith @UK. We are here for you. And many of us have similar problems.

 

[OregonRamsFan]

Dude, like mentioned before, find your triggers. You have to know what causes you to drink. Then avoid those triggers, like watching the Rams lose weekly. It’s depressing.

There are people that know how to help you. Please take the time to find help.

You are part of the Ramily and I’m sure we will all do our best to help you anyway we can. But it starts with you reaching out like you have. Bravo!

 

[FaulkSF]

@RamUK I have no idea what you are experiencing with your addiction, but you're well on your way to recovery by acknowledging there is a problem. There's some good advisement here.

Also, what is your capacity for exercise? There is a correlation between adrenaline and reducing the need to consume alcohol. This may work for you as I don't drink during the week, which is when I work out. There is no temptation and it also interferes with my health goals. Maybe an exercise regimen can work for you too.

 

[fearsomefour]

Your 'thinking' cannot get you out of where you are, no matter how smart you are.

My father was an active alcoholic and he died a horrible, lonely death.

1) Go to AA meetings every day and talk to other people who understand what you're dealing with.

2) I would also recommend watching videos of Paul Hedderman of Zen Bitch Slap. The ones where he talks about AA/ 12 steps.

Here's one to get you started;


View: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ns8vkmCdPpc

"Your thinking cannot get you out of where you are, no matter how smart you are."

This is so true.
Addiction and mental health issues, in most cases, has nothing to do with intelligence.

 

[fearsomefour]

I am sooo fucking over this but I keep slipping back. I'm sorry if I'm bringing the board down. I'm smart and read ever quit lit book but I'm clearly not smart enough. I fucking need help

Also, dude.....the fight and struggle of it is worth it.
The potential damage if there is a problem is massive....the downside to getting help and getting sober....if that is forever or for a bit, the downside really doesn't exist.

 

[RamUK]

Your 'thinking' cannot get you out of where you are, no matter how smart you are.

My father was an active alcoholic and he died a horrible, lonely death.

1) Go to AA meetings every day and talk to other people who understand what you're dealing with.

2) I would also recommend watching videos of Paul Hedderman of Zen Bitch Slap. The ones where he talks about AA/ 12 steps.

Here's one to get you started;


View: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ns8vkmCdPpc

I've only watched 5 minutes and I already love guy!

I've read a crazy amount of books on the topic, but I've never heard it put that he was prepared to put up with any pain tomorrow as long as he could get rid of it today. That's exactly it. Thanks, I'll watch some more later.

 

[RamUK]

A massive thanks to you all for your advice and support, it's been much appreciated.

I've had issues for about 3 or 4 years now but it's really escalated since I moved back to the UK and I think there is a connection however small to the fucking shit weather and my drinking

My doctor referred me to We are With You a year or so ago. They are a non-profit similar to AA but without any of the spiritual higher power content. I've been attending meetings online (sporadically) but had stopped seeing my caseworker through sheer complacency.

And that's my problem. I stop, have zero problems stopping for a few weeks, and then think I've got it cracked and I haven't. I never will have, but reminding myself that when I'm not even arsed about not drinking seems really tough.

And then I have a terrible night's sleep, have some super stressful stuff going on work-wise or the Rams draft Tutu Atwell and Vodka seems like a brilliant idea and I can just have it once and I'll be ok. But of course, it's never one. I mean literally NEVER. And it's progressive. I got to my mid-50s managing my intake well and knowing when to stop, now I've hit 60 those days have gone

I've booked back in with my caseworker and also seeing an addiction specialist privately next week and I've blocked out the time to attend at least 2 meetings per week.

So, I know what I need to do and I'll get there, it's just two steps forward and one back at the moment.

Thanks again to all of you