Enough about my kid. Why don't you explain your union to me?

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https://goodschoolhunting.org/2019/04/teachers-unions-oppose-bill-make-sex-students-crime.html

RHODE ISLAND · SCHOOL TALK
Both Teachers’ Unions Oppose Bill That Would Make Sex with Students a Crime
April 3, 2019Erika Sanzi


Yesterday at a hearing for a bill (HB 5817) that would make sex between school employees and students a crime—even after they’ve turned 16, the legal age of consent in Rhode Island—both teachers’ unions made their objections known. NEA RI didn’t have anyone testify but Pat Crowley did sign in to the hearing and note his opposition to the bill. I suspect the NEA also submitted written testimony. James Parisi of the United Federation of Teachers (UFT) did testify—in fact, we sat beside one another, each offering our very different opinions on the bill.



As it currently stands, Rhode Island is one of a few states where it is perfectly legal for teachers and other school employees to have sexual relations with their students once they turn 16. It’s literally a dirty little secret—almost no one seems to be aware of this loophole in the law and yet it leaves high school students without any protection from those who would sexually abuse them after their 16th birthday. We are also a state who, after a year long investigation by USA Today, received a grade of D for how well we track and share information about teachers who are also alleged abusers.



Parisi expressed that the UFT’s opposition to the bill lies mostly in the fact that it singles out school employees. He wonders why “store managers” aren’t included? Last time I checked, children aren’t, by law, in the custodial care of store managers from kindergarten through 12th grade. He wondered why clergy and the legislature weren’t also included in the bill but again, unless their role as clergy and legislators includes custodial responsibilities of children, his examples aren’t logical in this context. If the member of the clergy also teaches at a school, then yes. If the legislator is also a high school basketball coach, then yes.

In all honesty, to a small extent, his point is well taken. There is no reason why the protection of children shouldn’t extend to all adults who are in positions of authority or acting “in “loco parentis” when they are with minors. Plenty of states have that broader language written into their consent laws. But to equate a store manager with an 11th grade teacher or school bus driver is patently absurd and insulting to parents who think this bill is a long over due slam dunk.

Parisi also claims that this isn’t really a problem here and that the loss of one’s current job and state teaching license is punishment enough. I’m sorry, what? Just because hehas somehow decided this isn’t an issue doesn’t mean that we should continue to be a state where sex between teachers and students is legal. And Parisi, and every other person employed by a teachers’ union, are well versed in the very grim reality that sexual predators move from district to district and state to state—termination and loss of licensure are not sufficient deterrents and certainly do not protect children. Sure—it may help us get rid of abusers but I hope we aren’t ok with sending people who harm our students off to other states where they can hurt the children there. In a 2018 report, NPR’s Erin Logan says this:

“That cycle — abuse, dismissal, rehire and abuse again — is one that experts and researchers say is far too common across the nation. It has long been known as “passing the trash,” and despite years of efforts to make policies to keep it from happening, no one really knows how often it does.”

We don’t have to reinvent the wheel because plenty of states have language that protects students, under the law and if we can broaden it even more in the future, then great. But we currently have a bill on the table that at least does the job of addressing the issue in our schools.

Here are a few examples of how other states do it so much better than we do by including a clause about people in positions of authority:





I personally think I like the Michigan law best since it’s protects students beyond the age of 18 and until they’ve graduated.

The video of our testimony in front of the house judiciary committee begins here at Here is the one year investigation by USA Today that I reference in my testimony. The graphic above showing how poorly we track disciplinary actions against teachers can be found at the USA Today link as well.
 

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Just saw this. Wow. I I know this thread could get ugly, and apparently most took a pass, and didn’t comment.

Let’s just say, as a former teacher, teachers have an obligation to do what is right for their students. Morally, and it should be a no-brainer, legally.
 

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Just saw this. Wow. I I know this thread could get ugly, and apparently most took a pass, and didn’t comment.

Let’s just say, as a former teacher, teachers have an obligation to do what is right for their students. Morally, and it should be a no-brainer, legally.
I don't think this article requires any comments. The what-the-fuckery in there is so strong, I honestly didn't feel the need to say anything.
 

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I don't think this article requires any comments. The what-the-fuckery in there is so strong, I honestly didn't feel the need to say anything.
True. Sigh. But actually I think it important sometimes to state the obvious.
 

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Worse are coaches in various sports. The really dangerous predators lurk there.

Some are teachers also of course, but you get my point.
 

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Worse are coaches in various sports. The really dangerous predators lurk there.

Some are teachers also of course, but you get my point.
True. They go where the targets are. Everyone that deals with kids should be screened pretty carefully.
 

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Girlfriend of mine in my younger days, we’d go out often with her bestie and her BF.
He was quite the grifter, did lots of drugs and got popped for armed robbery. Did about 5 years, came out all hateful and whatnot.
In any event, he moved down south, allegedly cleaned up, and has been working as a teacher/guidance counselor for the past 15 years. Not coincidentally, the state he lives in is graded as an “F” on that chart
 

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Our current High School Wrestling coach had sex with two different female students. He must have had a thing for twins, because each girl had a twin sister. It's odd because nothing happened to the, then, English teacher. He was married and got divorced, after the second girl called his house and told his wife that they were in love. So, I guess the sex Hal encounters happened more than once. The guy was a former high school mock from a neighboring town and somewhat good looking he was only a few years out of college. That was around 1998-2005. He is still teaching and coaching, remarried too.


A few years before that incident a very different pairing happened. An older teacher, roughly 45, hooked up with an attractive athletic female student. He was half bald and kind of goofy. He was fired rather quickly. But once the girl turned 18 they began dating and eventually married and have kids together. I often wonder if she regrets her decision. Being 51 myself, I couldn't imagine keeping up with a women so much younger. My wife is eight years younger than me and that's as much as I can handle.
 

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Our current High School Wrestling coach had sex with two different female students. He must have had a thing for twins, because each girl had a twin sister. It's odd because nothing happened to the, then, English teacher. He was married and got divorced, after the second girl called his house and told his wife that they were in love. So, I guess the sex Hal encounters happened more than once. The guy was a former high school mock from a neighboring town and somewhat good looking he was only a few years out of college. That was around 1998-2005. He is still teaching and coaching, remarried too.


A few years before that incident a very different pairing happened. An older teacher, roughly 45, hooked up with an attractive athletic female student. He was half bald and kind of goofy. He was fired rather quickly. But once the girl turned 18 they began dating and eventually married and have kids together. I often wonder if she regrets her decision. Being 51 myself, I couldn't imagine keeping up with a women so much younger. My wife is eight years younger than me and that's as much as I can handle.

Similar story here in Naples some time ago.

I was going to a gym that was owned by two partners, one silent and the other active and onsite all the time. I got to know one of the female personal trainers and one day she decided to tell me a couple of dirty secrets. As it turned out there was a woman who had done several porn movies, with a specific slant towards female bodybuilders since that was her thing. Her stage name was Darkside Milinda and I checked it out of course. If you Google her you'll immediately notice one of the side effects of women who abuse testosterone. Before she blew up on PED's she was actually pretty good looking. I had seen her in the gym all the time over a few years and it was startling how much muscle she ended up having. She was dating and then married a guy who worked out there that also abused PED's.

The other was not nearly as much fun. As it turns out the active partner had served a few years in jail for having sex with two girls on the track team. He was one of the assistants and he use to have them over to his house, serve them booze, smoke weed with them and in several instances gave the two he had sex with X. He didn't do more time because the girls said the sex was consensual. He was in his early 30's when he did this. Eventually one of the girls mentioned it to someone and then word got around all over and the police got involved.

I wondered how someone could "consent" in an altered state under the influence of alcohol, weed and X. He's lucky I wasn't the judge.

Anyway I went to a different gym because I didn't want to put any money in his pocket. He served his time, paid the price and that's fine, I just didn't want to be in that gym. It was a really creepy vibe to see him the few times I did after I found out.
 

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I had an experience with this.

I had to take a foreign language in college. My professor turned out to be a young lady who had recently graduated from UF... she was older than me, but not WAY older than me.

We secretly started seeing each other... I'm not sure if it was even against the rules, but she didn't want anyone to know about it. The trade off for me ended up being that she didn't even want me to come to classes anymore... and I received an A in the 2 classes I had to take for Spanish.

Which part do you think was worse? That she slept with her student, or that she faked my grades and attendance...


It sure seems like it almost always leads to a conflict of interest.
 

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I had an experience with this.

I had to take a foreign language in college. My professor turned out to be a young lady who had recently graduated from UF... she was older than me, but not WAY older than me.

We secretly started seeing each other... I'm not sure if it was even against the rules, but she didn't want anyone to know about it. The trade off for me ended up being that she didn't even want me to come to classes anymore... and I received an A in the 2 classes I had to take for Spanish.

Which part do you think was worse? That she slept with her student, or that she faked my grades and attendance...


It sure seems like it almost always leads to a conflict of interest.
Aw man everyone has seen that porno movie.;)
 

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Which part do you think was worse? That she slept with her student, or that she faked my grades and attendance...

The faked grades. By a country mile.

Consensual sex between adults is sometimes not a great idea, we've all been there done that, but as a big part of the educational system as you are you know faking grades is WAY worse.

Tough choice though. Punnani and an A with some extra free time or ethical behavior.

I hate those choices. I get them right sometimes though hahaha.

And after that experience I would have immediately switched my major to French. With a minor in Brazilian.
 

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The faked grades. By a country mile.

Consensual sex between adults is sometimes not a great idea, we've all been there done that, but as a big part of the educational system as you are you know faking grades is WAY worse.

Tough choice though. Punnani and an A with some extra free time or ethical behavior.

I hate those choices. I get them right sometimes though hahaha.

And after that experience I would have immediately switched my major to French. With a minor in Brazilian.


I did KINDA feel guilty about it... but she was the one who insisted on me not even coming into her classroom after everything started. I blame it on her. :whistle:

I shared this because it was consenting adults... but in the educational environment this happened in... it resulted in scandalous behavior anyway. That's the problem.

I'm in the school business myself. I've been a school director for decades now... and allowing student/teacher relationships will always be a recipe for disaster. It always leads to problems. Even when it's between consenting adults.

This professor was Italian btw. She spoke like 6 or 7 languages. Plus... she was smoking hot. I blame her for taking advantage of me. Hahahaha
 

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This professor was Italian btw. She spoke like 6 or 7 languages. Plus... she was smoking hot. I blame her for taking advantage of me. Hahahaha

Good pussy, at any time, wins.

Death, taxes, good pussy...........this kinda shit never loses.

It was probably;y that fishnet belly shirt right?
 

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I think the worst part about it is that she didn’t teach Calculus or Western Civ, seems a waste to get a layup A for just Spanish haha
I was thinking long of the opposite. It's not all that bad because it's not like it was an important class. Mandatory language, arts, etc classes have always bugged me and I wouldn't feel bad in the slightest not having to go or getting a free A for those.

Way to go sticking it to the educational system Selassie! And then quickly becoming a part of the problem by joining it.
 

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FYI my father was a college professor his entire career. He used to get offers from chicks trying to change their grade.

Brazen little hussies.