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It's 2017 Elmgrove..........that "argument" has been dead for decades.
I tend to look at each situation individually and while I don't conclude innocence or guilt much of the time, sometimes I do.
It's an uncomfortable position for a woman to be in, and most don't say anything until they leave a position/company or they say nothing at all. Often out of fear of losing their job. As a guy it's very difficult to understand the embarrassment and stress, however just look at the attitudes some of you guys are displaying and how the general public is similar..........since this board is a cross section of the general public. See what I mean?
Several days ago I watched a video of Katie Couric talking about Matt Lauer in an interview. The guy asked her several questions about working with him, one was what she didn't like about working with him. Her response was that he pinched her butt a lot. The guy conducting the interview sort of giggled and if you watch her face you can see she is not happy, yet not shocked, by his response. He checked himself, but the dismissive vibe was already out there.
It's important to note that most rapes and cases or sexual harassment never get reported because women fear that they won't be believed or have their style of dress called into question ("you were asking for it") or worse. I have heard from female friends about inappropriate remarks etc they had to put up with in their lives. Generally their attitudes are "why bother" when it comes to speaking out.
I work with a woman who is now 70, and when she was younger she was very attractive. When this all started bursting on the scene we talked about it and she is happy that women are coming forward. She has had inappropriate comments and gestures directed at her over many years at work, in bars, in college, in grocery stores and everywhere else. Because of the times she grew up in she just lived with it because of the chauvinistic attitude of that era.
Keep in mind most of the times, the large majority in fact, that women speak up they are telling the truth. Just look at how many people have been accused lately and that almost all of them have admitted it. It isn't a case of guilty until proven innocent. If accusations are levied they are almost always true.
Things are changing, and it's about freaking time.
Here this will keep you entertained.So im just gonna wait for the dick pics to come out.
Nah, let's not go there. Criticize the post not the one who made it.
I I wondered if she was baiting purposely because it was 4 different guys. Other than a porn shoot where does that happen.
I know harassment is real but this case sounds fishy.
It's 2017 Elmgrove..........that "argument" has been dead for decades.
I tend to look at each situation individually and while I don't conclude innocence or guilt much of the time, sometimes I do.
It's an uncomfortable position for a woman to be in, and most don't say anything until they leave a position/company or they say nothing at all. Often out of fear of losing their job. As a guy it's very difficult to understand the embarrassment and stress, however just look at the attitudes some of you guys are displaying and how the general public is similar..........since this board is a cross section of the general public. See what I mean?
Several days ago I watched a video of Katie Couric talking about Matt Lauer in an interview. The guy asked her several questions about working with him, one was what she didn't like about working with him. Her response was that he pinched her butt a lot. The guy conducting the interview sort of giggled and if you watch her face you can see she is not happy, yet not shocked, by his response. He checked himself, but the dismissive vibe was already out there.
It's important to note that most rapes and cases or sexual harassment never get reported because women fear that they won't be believed or have their style of dress called into question ("you were asking for it") or worse. I have heard from female friends about inappropriate remarks etc they had to put up with in their lives. Generally their attitudes are "why bother" when it comes to speaking out.
I work with a woman who is now 70, and when she was younger she was very attractive. When this all started bursting on the scene we talked about it and she is happy that women are coming forward. She has had inappropriate comments and gestures directed at her over many years at work, in bars, in college, in grocery stores and everywhere else. Because of the times she grew up in she just lived with it because of the chauvinistic attitude of that era.
Keep in mind most of the times, the large majority in fact, that women speak up they are telling the truth. Just look at how many people have been accused lately and that almost all of them have admitted it. It isn't a case of guilty until proven innocent. If accusations are levied they are almost always true.
Things are changing, and it's about freaking time.
Anyone here work in an office for a while? Man, the truth is, there are men & women together, sometimes spending more time together than they do with their families. After a while you get more comfortable with each other and then all hell can break loose. It's keeping the boundaries, and I did, that's the difference. You can't make a move on a woman at work. Just not a good idea. If you do, you have some serious issues. In the history of the world, sex is still the undefeated champion for ruining careers.
Yep.
I'd say nearly 50% of women accusing these men are full of bullcrap and just want the attention and money.
I heard one case where the lady willingly took her clothes off and began in consensual sex and now she's accusing him of sexual assault. Give me a freaking break. I'm sorry but I have a hard time believing a lot of these women. Maybe SOME of what they say is true, but I think they lie about way too much.
Les I’m talking about the following scenario:
Did he send pics? Yes. Was he stupid? Yes. Was it always unwelcome? Was it? Not always clear who the victim is. Sometimes there is no innocent player. Just vengeance played out on a public stage.
- Guy and gal, in the workplace, flirting and talking. Working odd hours. Traveling together. Eating together. Changing rooms. What could go wrong, right?
- Guy gets bold. Sends out trial balloon signals. Cool. She didn’t balk. Steps a little closer to the line.
- Gal likes the attention. Feeds the beast. Dresses nice smells nice. He thinks he’s got the green light!
- He sends pics. She sends pics. (I just don’t get this new trend. So glad to be 52 and married). Maybe something happens.
- Things go sour. He’s famous. Wife or girlfriend is on to him. He gets cold feet. Pulls out of the situation.
- Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.
The point is that the pendulum of sexual harassment has swung too far.
Women face some real pigs.
There is no way to fully insulate yourself from harassers.
From harassment?
No, unless they are tragically weak human beings.
But, depends what we are talking about.
You didn't define it.
On the one hand it's a good thing for society to begin to hold accountable the men who treat women inappropriately and send a message to the ones who are headed in that direction. On the other hand let's hope this doesn't turn out to be like the Salem witchcraft trials where lives and reputations were ruined based only on suspicion and rumors.
I think if there's no physical contact and nothing explicit said sexually (i.e., hey nice view) there really shouldn't be grounds for getting trouble. That's just MO.
Yeah it's crazy Champ. Dudes are just out of their minds when it comes to pu$$y.
One of my kids went into the military and I'm talkin to her on the phone and she's got three different dudes in the barracks that won't take no for an answer. So I tell her "you gotta be firm and honest with dudes that you're not interested in" and of course she is doing just that but she's a cute thing and these guys proceed with the creeper behavior anyways.
It's hard for dudes to understand what that feels like I think. The non-stop nature of it is just nuts. In the Navy I'll still have to yoke up junior personnel for staring at even female leaders, it's part of the culture still that needs to change. I'm sure the NFL and the Navy have a lot of similarities in those ways.
Maybe Shia LeBouf gif isn't the best choice here
- he has a legacy here in Austin
https://austin.com/shia-labeouf-ejected-austin-club-alleged-sexual-harassmebnt/
Yeah, alot of that going around these days.Something doesn't add up to say the least. Sounds like a persecution complex that's been given a platform with today's climate.
Men really are targets nowadays. Be careful out there guys. You can lose it all on things you might consider non-sexual.
I have seen it. It seems all she needs to do is accuse you. With or without proof, it doesn’t matter. Keep the blinders on. It’s just not safe out there.
Wow, Les. Lots to cover here. First of all, thanks for your thoughtful responses. Secondly, a couple clarifications. I think you misread the essence of my post. My scenario was a hypothetical, yes. But by no means was it out of left field. I stand by that as the typical ensnarement scenario.Well this isn't what seems to have happened, and frankly you are making up a remotely possible scenario and that's just not what we are looking at in most of these cases we see arising.
You state a couple times, "That is your opinion." Yes it is, and I recognize that. Please recognize, too. That your strong opinions are your OPINIONS. You act as though all facts are in evidence. Many of these guys are admitting to wrong doing. Videos and texts, etc. ARE evidence of sexual talk. NOT evidence of UNWANTED sexual talk and advances. YOU shouldn't lead with your chin on these matters. You may be right and you may not have the full story.That's your opinion, and the fact that almost all of the men accused are copping to it and apologizing seems lost on you. That's not a case of "swung too far" it's a case of assholes getting called out for the crap they did and women not being afraid as much as they have been.
A bit condescending?For sure, that is correct. So you let people know what they did when they do it. We are seeing that now.
For a moment I thought we had achieved comprehension. I dunno.
Such a broad brush Les. What case are you talking about?Just an FYI..........this isn't based on suspicion and rumor. And it isn't a torrent of fake claims.
These are pieces of crap that have done their best to take advantage and have gotten away with it for a long time and deserve what they are getting.
A woman showing some interest in a man doesn't give him the right to do those things and it seems to me a few posters are saying they can justify why these guys did that because of that, or how she was dressed. That's crazy.
It’s a case by case basis. Neither of us were there to see how the woman dressed or acted. I wondered if she was baiting purposely because it was 4 different guys. Other than a porn shoot where does that happen.
I remember a young PSU runningback get kicked out of school for rape. Any hopes of playing in the NFL were shot. 4 years later a friend of the girl came out and said that he was baited by the girl who willingly had sex and ran straight to the cops the next day. She thought she would get rich when he hit the NFL.
I know harassment is real but this case sounds fishy.
Wow, Les. Lots to cover here. First of all, thanks for your thoughtful responses. Secondly, a couple clarifications. I think you misread the essence of my post. My scenario was a hypothetical, yes. But by no means was it out of left field. I stand by that as the typical ensnarement scenario.
You state a couple times, "That is your opinion." Yes it is, and I recognize that. Please recognize, too. That your strong opinions are your OPINIONS. You act as though all facts are in evidence. Many of these guys are admitting to wrong doing. Videos and texts, etc. ARE evidence of sexual talk. NOT evidence of UNWANTED sexual talk and advances. YOU shouldn't lead with your chin on these matters. You may be right and you may not have the full story.
You heard me when I said that guys need to be respectful of women, and not do foolish things.
I think the sexual ethic today is HORRIBLE. Much of the blame goes to men. Much of the blame goes to Feminism. They want to be treated like guys, be promiscuous like guys. Be aggressors like guys. Take their RU486 and wooo! girls night out! Can't have it both ways. The line is soooo grey. Permission to pursue stops when she says. Agreed. But it never used to be the social norm that women didn't have to be ladies. Many of them are worse than the guys. I have 3 young men sons. I teach them to respect women. Then society says, "F you" Nobody wants "religious values" being "forced down their throat" but they want people to know the limits of promiscuity being forced down our throat. I call BS.
A bit condescending?
Such a broad brush Les. What case are you talking about?
Prosecute the child molesters. The pedophiles. (Which by the way have enjoyed way too much cover by some politicians for years) The sexual predators. Halleluiah! I am all for it. Each case is different, though. Can we agree on that, Les?
Crazy? maybe not. Let's let the other shoe drop here, Les.
Wow, Les. Lots to cover here. First of all, thanks for your thoughtful responses. Secondly, a couple clarifications. I think you misread the essence of my post. My scenario was a hypothetical, yes. But by no means was it out of left field. I stand by that as the typical ensnarement scenario.
You state a couple times, "That is your opinion." Yes it is, and I recognize that. Please recognize, too. That your strong opinions are your OPINIONS. You act as though all facts are in evidence. Many of these guys are admitting to wrong doing. Videos and texts, etc. ARE evidence of sexual talk. NOT evidence of UNWANTED sexual talk and advances. YOU shouldn't lead with your chin on these matters. You may be right and you may not have the full story.
You heard me when I said that guys need to be respectful of women, and not do foolish things.
I think the sexual ethic today is HORRIBLE. Much of the blame goes to men. Much of the blame goes to Feminism. They want to be treated like guys, be promiscuous like guys. Be aggressors like guys. Take their RU486 and wooo! girls night out! Can't have it both ways. The line is soooo grey. Permission to pursue stops when she says. Agreed. But it never used to be the social norm that women didn't have to be ladies. Many of them are worse than the guys. I have 3 young men sons. I teach them to respect women. Then society says, "F you" Nobody wants "religious values" being "forced down their throat" but they want people to know the limits of promiscuity being forced down our throat. I call BS.
A bit condescending?
Such a broad brush Les. What case are you talking about?
Prosecute the child molesters. The pedophiles. (Which by the way have enjoyed way too much cover by some politicians for years) The sexual predators. Halleluiah! I am all for it. Each case is different, though. Can we agree on that, Les?
Crazy? maybe not. Let's let the other shoe drop here, Les.