Russell Wilson tackles NFL's domestic abuse crisis in revealing essay

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Russell Wilson tackles NFL's domestic abuse crisis in revealing essay

By Marisa Kabas on October 02, 2014

With his new online publication, The Players’ Tribune, Derek Jeter wants to provide athletes a platform for the biggest names in sports to provide filter-free analysis directly to fans.

In the site’s first post, published Wednesday, the typically overly politically correct Jeter wrote:

“I do think fans deserve more than ‘no comments’ or ‘I don’t knows.’ Those simple answers have always stemmed from a genuine concern that any statement, any opinion or detail, might be distorted. I have a unique perspective. Many of you saw me after that final home game, when the enormity of the moment hit me. I’m not a robot. Neither are the other athletes who at times might seem unapproachable. We all have emotions. We just need to be sure our thoughts will come across the way we intend.

So I’m in the process of building a place where athletes have the tools they need to share what they really think and feel. We want to have a way to connect directly with our fans, with no filter.”

The newly retired New York Yankees shortstop made good on his promise Thursday, tackling the ever-growing NFL domestic abuse scandal by tapping Seattle Seahawks quarterback Russell Wilson to be a senior editor. The 25-year-old has had a busy year, with a Super Bowl win and a shocking divorce announcement, but he jumped right into the biggest controversy in pro sports.

Wilson’s first post, entitled “Let’s Talk About It,” starts off with a bang. Literally.

"I used to beat people up. Truthfully, I used to beat people up a lot. Many of you readers probably think I have been Mr. Goody Two-Shoes my whole life, but honestly, I was a bully growing up. In elementary and middle school, I threw kids against the wall. I rubbed their heads in the dirt at recess. I bit them. I even knocked teeth out.”

The “goody two-shoes” rep stems from his deeply religious persona, which he references in the following paragraph. He tweets a Bible verse daily, and even when he announced his divorce from his wife of two years, Ashton Meem, back in May, he remained tight-lipped about the causes behind it. Even in the face of rumors that Meem cheated on him with fellow NFL player Golden Taint, he kept his eyes to the sky.

So that’s why his admission of being a violent youth is particularly surprising, and makes for an intriguing start to the work that Jeter and the folks at Legendary Entertainment are hoping to accomplish.

He continued:


“As NFL players, we do not play a gentle game. But our hits, our anger, our aggressive behaviors need to be regulated and confined to the field. Recent incidents of domestic violence have forced The League, its fans and the players to take a hard look into our collective conscience. To be honest, many NFL players are reluctant to address such a sensitive issue. How do you fix a problem so big and complex? How do you speak about something so damaging and painful to families?”


Active NFL players not directly embroiled in the domestic violence scandal have been largely quiet on the subject since it erupted with the release of the Ray Rice tape in August. Roger Goodell and company have somehow managed to keep active players at bay, and though Wilson’s column isn’t specifically damning to any of his fellow players, it seems like somewhat of a grand gesture in the right direction.

In the column, he announces the formation of the Why Not You Foundation, which encourages people to “Pass the Peace” in support of domestic violence victims. When you “Pass the Peace” to a friend, Wilson asks that you make a $2 donation or more to the the National Domestic Violence Hotline. You can do this by texting "WNYPassThePeace" to 41444.

He ends his inaugural column with this:



“I can’t fix the world. I can’t fix the NFL. I can’t change the guys around me. The only person I can change is the one in the mirror. I’m not a perfect person by any means. I’m just a recovering bully. But if we start being honest about our pain, our anger, and our shortcomings instead of pretending they don’t exist, then maybe we’ll leave the world a better place than we found it. For those of us in the NFL, there’s no excuse for violence off the field.”

Is this the most groundbreaking piece about domestic violence? Probably not. Is it particularly well-written? Not really. But the fact that a player at the peak of his career is willing to stand up, even just for a moment, for not just women but for human beings, is perhaps a sign that advocates, victims, and concerned fans just might be getting through.
 

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Iused to beat people up. Truthfully, I used to beat people up a lot. Many of you readers probably think I have been Mr. Goody Two-Shoes my whole life, but honestly, I was a bully growing up. In elementary and middle school, I threw kids against the wall. I rubbed their heads in the dirt at recess. I bit them. I even knocked teeth out.

I had a lot of anger that I didn’t know what to do with. Thankfully, I was saved by my faith when I was 14 years old, and was able to start living for others instead of just myself. But if you’ve ever been at the bottom of a pile with me, you know that I still have a bit of that bully deep down inside—just ask DeMarcus Ware—and I work hard to keep it there.

As NFL players, we do not play a gentle game. But our hits, our anger, our aggressive behaviors need to be regulated and confined to the field. Recent incidents of domestic violence have forced The League, its fans and the players to take a hard look into our collective conscience. To be honest, many NFL players are reluctant to address such a sensitive issue. How do you fix a problem so big and complex? How do you speak about something so damaging and painful to families?

Domestic violence extends far beyond the spotlight of the NFL. It’s not unique to my profession. It’s not confined to America. All over the world, right at this moment, men, women and children are taking refuge in anonymous shelters. Many more are suffering silently, without protection. Every day, up to 10,000 Americans are turned away from shelters due to lack of resources.

What can we do to help? All I can do is my small part. And I invite you to help me. I’ve recently launched the “Why Not You Foundation” where I’ll be raising funds and awareness for a number of worthy causes. It’s a place where I plan to give back, and for my first initiative, I want us to Pass the Peaceto support victims of domestic violence. The idea behind Pass the Peace is simple: It’s a promise. I’m sharing my love for you. I want to take care of you. I am here for you.

To be honest, many NFL players are reluctant to address such a sensitive issue. How do you fix a problem so big and complex?

Maybe in our cynical world, this seems too ambitious, or even naive. Maybe this issue is too taboo, too toxic. I’ve tended to avoid controversial topics throughout my career, but in my first piece for The Players’ Tribune, I wanted to be open and address something that’s important, timely and relevant. I’ve been silent on the issue for too long, falling back on the “I can’t speak to someone else’s personal life” excuse. But victims need physical, emotional and financial support and care, and the resources to get away from their abusers. Abusers, you need to get help—you can change.

When you Pass the Peace to a friend, I ask that you make a $2 donation or more to The National Domestic Violence Hotline. It couldn’t be easier. Simply text WNYPassThePeace to 41444 to make your contribution. For more information, please visit www.whynotyoufoundation.com.

How many of you reading right now knew that October is Domestic Violence Awareness month? I certainly didn’t.I had to Google it. And that’s part of why I felt so inspired to do my part. This initiative, this story, is about acknowledging something difficult, something we’d rather not see. When I look back at beating kids up on the playground, I don’t like that image. But I moved past that place in my life, and I’m proud of the man I am now.

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This issue is much bigger than NFL suspensions. Domestic violence isn’t going to disappear tomorrow or the next day. But the more that we choose not to talk about it, the more we shy away from the issue, the more we lose.

I can’t fix the world. I can’t fix the NFL. I can’t change the guys around me. The only person I can change is the one in the mirror. I’m not a perfect person by any means. I’m just a recovering bully. But if we start being honest about our pain, our anger, and our shortcomings instead of pretending they don’t exist, then maybe we’ll leave the world a better place than we found it. For those of us in the NFL, there’s no excuse for violence off the field.
 

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Peyton Manning needs to sit down with this kid and explain to him the responsibilities that comes with being the face of the NFL. Too many of his peers squander the opportunity each week, and the league is going to lean hard on him, like they did Peyton, to show that not everyone is a thug, a criminal, a bad father, or a violent person off the field.

Wilson is certainly a face of the persona the NFL wants their players to be. The pressures that come with that can be maddening
 

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What chick would band Golden Taint when they have Russell Wilson?! Paycheck? Hello? :palm:
 

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What chick would band Golden Taint when they have Russell Wilson?! Paycheck? Hello? :palm:

Is Golden Taint still with Seattle? Hard to imagine they would keep him on the team if it were true. If it is, then Wilson is a bigger man than I thought, that can't be easy.
 

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I really hate the Seahawks, but Wilson is just a cool ass dude. I hope he doesn't cry too hard when Aaron Donald sits on his face.
 

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Man, Wilson and Kaepernick are night and day with their personalities. Hard to dislike Wilson for who he is.
 

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I find it easy to dislike Wilson. Put him with the Rams the last 2 years and he is a .500 QB with the same average stats. He gets a little too much credit for Seattle's success if you ask me.
 

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I find it easy to dislike Wilson. Put him with the Rams the last 2 years and he is a .500 QB with the same average stats. He gets a little too much credit for Seattle's success if you ask me.
At last! A voice of reason. And, he comes across as a smug little punk to me...
 

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At last! A voice of reason. And, he comes across as a smug little punk to me...

I don't hate him, but I certainly don't like him and don't wish he were a Ram. Again, I do think he is a tad overrated. But as is with the QB position, they can get too much blame and in some cases, like with Wilson, too much of the credit.
 

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I don't hate him, but I certainly don't like him and don't wish he were a Ram. Again, I do think he is a tad overrated. But as is with the QB position, they can get too much blame and in some cases, like with Wilson, too much of the credit.

For sure he gets more love than he should and part of the reason is because he's modest and conscious of the fact he is just a cog in the machine.
 

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I like Wilson a lot. Do agree he is overrated. That said he comes off as the guy you want on your team. Solid and smart, draws the light that winning QBs draw but handles it well. Compare him to CK and it is night and day. Not sure aobut the physical talent comparing the two...but the brains and maturity is much higher on RW.

Yes I would take him here in a heartbeat....that does not mean I think he is a Manning or Warner....but I think he very good, and is going to get even better with time.
 

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Can I get a quick update on what Taint did? The only thing I recall is him stealing donuts in his rookie year...

and as for Russell Wilson...yeah, I hate the Hawks, but how can ya not like this guy...
 

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Golden Taint denies sleeping with Russell Wilson’s wife
By Tim Weaver
April 30, 2014

Wide receiver Golden Taint has a new home with the Detroit Lions, but some rumors about his time in Seattle are still lingering. I haven’t been reporting on the rumors myself as of yet because you never know what’s true when it comes to this kind of stuff.

Taint himself however took to Twitter last night to address the rumors that he slept with Russell Wilson‘s wife Ashton, which supposedly was a contributing factor in their divorce.

Golden Taint ✔ @ShowtimeTate

"Btw the ignorant minority of people, bloggers and whoever else spreading ridiculous rumors should cut it out. It's absurd the stories that Are being made up from whatever source. In fact Elise and Ashton are still incredible friends , as well as Russ and I.

I strongly advise the ignorant folks blowing this situation up and spreading this rumors to shut the hell up. Go watch the nba playoffs

Finally, I don't understand why it's anyone's business what happens in ones personal life. It's irrelevant to his performance on the field."


That last tweet summarizes my feelings on the matter completely.

Speculating about trade rumors and free agency and actual football intrigue is a lot of fun. Whispering (or blogging) about who slept with who is the realm of pathetic people whose own personal lives are so boring they waste their time gossiping about others.

Maybe Taint is denying the allegations about sleeping with Ashton because he wants to defend his reputation – maybe they actually happened. If so it would certainly explain Wilson’s decision to divorce Ashton, but who knows? That Taint felt compelled to even speak to the rumor says a lot about the pervasive nature of social media gossip.



Wilson is now the most eligible bachelor on the west coast and Taint has a good shot at the Pro Bowl in the Lions’ pass-heavy offense, but the bottom line is we’re never going to know for sure either way.

Eleanor Roosevelt said it best: “Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people.”