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How to combat 'phoneliness'

https://www.cnet.com/how-to/how-to-combat-phoneliness/

A new study likens smartphone addiction to substance abuse. Here are some ways to break the habit.

How many times per day do you interact with your phone? A few? A few dozen? Maybe a hundred? In what probably comes as a surprise to no one, too much of this can be bad for your health -- your mental health.

According to a recent NeuroRegulation study, digital addiction is real, and smartphones are causing it in a growing number of people. What's more, the symptoms and behaviors mimic those of actual substance abuse and can include increased loneliness (which the study calls "phoneliness"), anxiety and depression.

Although the study concludes with a few strategies to combat digital addiction, I wanted to know more about the problem and ways to overcome it. So I reached out to clinical forensic psychologist Dr. John Huber, chairman of the non-profit organization Mainstream Mental Health. We spoke via email; here's what he told me.

Q: How would you define "phoneliness"?
Huber: The uncontrollable urge to pick up your phone and check it, just in case you missed something.

How can I be experiencing this phenomenon when I'm surrounded by people?
Huber: The issue is much like stimulus response conditioning that was first demonstrated by Pavlov and his dogs by ringing a bell. When we get a notification, a like on "Instagram" or any other social media app, our brain releases a very small amount of dopamine. This is the same neurotransmitter released when your brain is fed cocaine. It is addictive both mentally and physically. In fact, with just two hours of screen time, research shows that people begin to exhibit behavioral signs of depression.

If I'm a heavy phone user, does that mean I'm addicted to it? Maybe I just need it for work.
Huber: Modern life has given us some huge demands on our time, and to function most efficiently we use technology. Heavy phone use is part of that trend.

When not at work, do you find yourself checking your phone or not attending to conversations with live people directly in front of you? Do you feel uneasy when you don't have your phone on your person? Do you find yourself lost in thought thinking about what you could be doing on your phone? These are all signs you may be more than a heavy user and maybe you should seek help.

What are some of the key symptoms of this addiction?
Huber: Feeling isolated when you do not have your phone, even with friends and family physically present. Feeling anxious when you do not have a good cell connection. You find yourself avoiding human interaction by using your cell phone. These are just the tip of the iceberg,

What are some good ways to reduce daily smartphone use?
Huber: Don't charge your phone overnight near your sleeping area. By giving yourself 10 to 30 minutes phone-free in the morning, you increase the likelihood of increased interactions with other humans -- and you get a better night's sleep.

When eating meals, turn your phone off. It shows respect for the people you are with and helps retrain your mind to prioritize the actual people around you.

Probably most important, engage in activities that require you to use both hands during your leisure time, preferably outside. Activities such as tennis, basketball, fishing, camping, even martial arts give us time to clear our mind and get our hearts pumping, which is always a good thing.

Mindfulness meditation is very popular right now, but the irony is we use meditation apps on our phones. Does this just worsen the problem?
Huber: Mindfulness meditation is a way to meditate by focusing on paying attention. Using phone apps and/or YouTube videos to do meditation is, in a lot of ways, defeating the purpose of the meditation.

Phones are designed to make you focus on them, so are you really learning to meditate or are we still just playing with your phone? If you want to calm yourself and attain inner peace, the best way to do that is inside yourself, not with an app.

Using social media and apps to increase our social interaction can be good for business and may keep you [connected to] society and the world in general. These interactions, though reinforced by a neurochemical process, are much like drinking a diet soda: It tastes sweet and fills your tummy, but it lacks in real nutritional value, and in the long run, too much can be harmful.
 

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Tired of articles like these brushing a negative on smartphones. I live by myself, this is my main source of communication.

It's the ultimate irony....people that complain about phone users who never communicate to others, ARE actually communicating. Now more than ever.
 

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I live by myself, this is my main source of communication.

Same here..........and I use it wisely IMO.

Now more than ever.

This is a great point. Via text I stay in touch with TONS of people, often simultaneously, without having to carve out time for phone calls. In fact I have found that even business related stuff is handled more via text than email.
 

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This is a great point. Via text I stay in touch with TONS of people, often simultaneously, without having to carve out time for phone calls. In fact I have found that even business related stuff is handled more via text than email.
So true.
Being in sales, I love talking with my customers, but can only have 1 verbal conversation at a time. I refuse to pick up another call while sitting with someone or talking to them on the phone. Texting is a fantastic resource as it allows you to multi task conversations without diminishing the importance of each conversation.
To me, the worst used "technology" is voice mail. I hate it with a passion. It is such a time suck. Listen to the message for someone to leave a call back number at the very end of their message, only to call back and get their voicemail, listen to the 30 second "greeting" then leave your message just to have them call back.... Ugh
 

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Tired of articles like these brushing a negative on smartphones. I live by myself, this is my main source of communication.

It's the ultimate irony....people that complain about phone users who never communicate to others, ARE actually communicating. Now more than ever.
They did specifically say this particular issue was about people feeling lonely in the presence of others because they aren't around their phone. It didn't say (that I read, but I skimmed about 30%) the issue was with people who are physically alone and using the phone to connect with others.

For example, I'm in a room with my 2 kids and my wife, but we're all on phones or tablets. It's sad, but I've got you guys to cheer me up.
 

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My phone battery died earlier and I was forced to interact with my family.
They seem like nice people.
 

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What are some of the key symptoms of this addiction?
Huber: Feeling isolated when you do not have your phone, even with friends and family physically present. Feeling anxious when you do not have a good cell connection. You find yourself avoiding human interaction by using your cell phone. These are just the tip of the iceberg,

They did specifically say this particular issue was about people feeling lonely in the presence of others because they aren't around their phone. It didn't say (that I read, but I skimmed about 30%) the issue was with people who are physically alone and using the phone to connect with others.

For example, I'm in a room with my 2 kids and my wife, but we're all on phones or tablets. It's sad, but I've got you guys to cheer me up.

For me it depends on who I'm with. If I'm with my close friends I grew up with, yeah the phone is away. If I'm with a bunch of douchebags, If they don't even bother to say hello, I ain't got time for them.

Regardless, it's not different than me wanting a Nintendo 64 in my own room instead of watching whatever dumb show my parentals were watching.
 

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For me it depends on who I'm with. If I'm with my close friends I grew up with, yeah the phone is away. If I'm with a bunch of douchebags, If they don't even bother to say hello, I ain't got time for them.

Regardless, it's not different than me wanting a Nintendo 64 in my own room instead of watching whatever dumb show my parentals were watching.
Yeah, video games on the only TV in the house, which was in the living room, was not something many of my friends understood.

I always wanted a TV in my room so I could play whenever I wanted.
 

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A part of me wishes that we didn't have cell phones. Another part loves it because it is a source of knowledge and convenience. Have a question? Look it up! Recognise an actor, but can't place him? Read his filmography. Have odd ailments? Research them to see if they could be serious. It's great for shopping and EBay too.

Socially? Texting is just a convenient way to communicate. Fakebook is lazy entertainment. I don't think that I have phoneliness, but my step son does IMO. Most of our youths today have it IMO.
 
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How to combat 'phoneliness'...
Do you feel uneasy when you don't have your phone on your person?

no .... but I do feel uneasy when I'm away from home and I don't have my keys on my person. Does this mean I have keylockedoutness?
 

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A part of me wishes that we didn't have cell phones. Another part loves it because it is a source of knowledge and convenience. Have a question? Look it up! Recognise an actor, but can't place him? Read his filmography. Have odd ailments? Research them to see if they could be serious. It's great for shopping and EBay too.

Socially? Texting is just a convenient way to communicate. Fakebook is lazy entertainment. I don't think that I have phoneliness, but my step son does IMO. Most of our youths today have it IMO.

Ehh, Facebook used to be entertaining. Now everyone has to have spew their political opinion. I've seen so many people fighting over something so ridiculous caused by...a meme?

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A few years ago during a bitter winter I was out walking and decided to run up this steep hill as quickly as I could. About halfway up the hill I heard this pop and felt searing pain in the calf muscle of my right leg. I thought I had been shot but the calf muscle had torn.

I walk by that hill about once a week and it sits there laughing at me. :mad:

Still, I walk about three miles a day, around 360 days out of the year, but no more running. :rimshot:

Ehh, Facebook used to be entertaining. Now everyone has to have spew their political opinion. I've seen so many people fighting over something so ridiculous caused by...a meme?

tenor.gif

I skip over that crap. Mostly I like it for funny videos and memes. Plus I keep in touch with some old friends and relatives.
 

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Several years ago I denounced texting and felt it was for the uneducated and individuals that lacked basic communication skills....Now I just tell everyone I interact with.."Don't call me, just shoot me a text." @dieterbrock is right (wow that hurt) you can carry on several communications simultaneously and that's a plus, whether watching our beloved Los Angeles Rams, or planning a family event and the group text is even better....May God have mercy on my soul.
 

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Ehh, Facebook used to be entertaining. Now everyone has to have spew their political opinion. I've seen so many people fighting over something so ridiculous caused by...a meme?

tenor.gif

FB is a POS.

Several years ago I denounced texting and felt it was for the uneducated and individuals that lacked basic communication skills....Now I just tell everyone I interact with.."Don't call me, just shoot me a text." @dieterbrock is right (wow that hurt) you can carry on several communications simultaneously and that's a plus, whether watching our beloved Los Angeles Rams, or planning a family event and the group text is even better....May God have mercy on my soul.

I felt odd when I caved in to it but it's really been fantastic.
 

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I skip over that crap. Mostly I like it for funny videos and memes. Plus I keep in touch with some old friends and relatives.

I'm thinking that quote of mine you used was from the "Old Bastards" thread not this one. But okay...:sneaky:

I refuse to get a cell phone no matter how much mockery I have to take. The landline Ma Bell phone is bad enough. Lately I've been getting calls from an area code located in Mongolia. :headexplosion: On the positive side it's helping me to practice lessening my profanity and throwing stuff across the room.

The wife has a cell phone that makes an obnoxious sound every time someone texts her. That's also helping me to practice lessening my profanity and throwing stuff across the room. :cool:
 

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My phone battery died earlier and I was forced to interact with my family.
They seem like nice people.

Now we know why you were staring at the ceiling.
 

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Talking to strangers at bars is more fun than ever before. I love interrupting their phone swag and gettin that look, like "Wut?? Cant u txt me?"