So I popped the question...
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Rhino is right....money is a big one.
Not having it or having a bunch of it is not what I mean....priorities, where and how to spend or save ect. Money is the root of most marital problems. Good luck.
Not having it or having a bunch of it is not what I mean....priorities, where and how to spend or save ect. Money is the root of most marital problems. Good luck.
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Yep...money is the source of all of our disagreements. They are few and far between, but that is always at the root.
My suggestion, be open and honest about what you spend money on and ask that she do the same. You'll be able to combine your finances much easier knowing each others habits.
My suggestion, be open and honest about what you spend money on and ask that she do the same. You'll be able to combine your finances much easier knowing each others habits.
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What do you do now? Punt.
Seriously though, as you have no doubt heard, money seems to always be at the head of arguments. My wife and I have been together for 30 years; more than 27 of that married. We have always had separate accounts and our own set of bills. Which bills have changed from time to time as one or both of our incomes have changed but we never argue over what the other spends money on. Now all that said, we discuss major purchases but I'm not worried about her finding out when I want to surprise her with a gift or that she'll be pissed because I spent too much on the strippers one night :huh:
and I'm not looking at our account and suddenly noticing I don't have the money I thought I had to buy something I wanted.
Another thing - continue to take her out on dates. My wife and I have a date day every week. It may sound gay but we go out, have a great time dancing or playing pool or having a nice dinner - whatever seems like it would be fun to do.
And a night without sex needs to be the exception not the rule.
What do you do now? Punt.
Seriously though, as you have no doubt heard, money seems to always be at the head of arguments. My wife and I have been together for 30 years; more than 27 of that married. We have always had separate accounts and our own set of bills. Which bills have changed from time to time as one or both of our incomes have changed but we never argue over what the other spends money on. Now all that said, we discuss major purchases but I'm not worried about her finding out when I want to surprise her with a gift or that she'll be pissed because I spent too much on the strippers one night :huh:
and I'm not looking at our account and suddenly noticing I don't have the money I thought I had to buy something I wanted. Another thing - continue to take her out on dates. My wife and I have a date day every week. It may sound gay but we go out, have a great time dancing or playing pool or having a nice dinner - whatever seems like it would be fun to do.
And a night without sex needs to be the exception not the rule.
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Congrats!
I hit 28 years this year.
I remember at my bachelor party my one friend, who was married, said to me, "It's not always 50-50. Sometimes it's 80-20."
Somehow--although I'm sure I was quite drunk, and I know he was, this made a lot of sense to me.
Sometimes you have to give more than you want to--sometimes a lot more--and vice-versa. Maybe overall it settles out to a 50-50 split, I don't know. But be willing to compromise.
By the way--he was married for about two or three years before the divorce.
I'm still married.
Go figure.
I hit 28 years this year.
I remember at my bachelor party my one friend, who was married, said to me, "It's not always 50-50. Sometimes it's 80-20."
Somehow--although I'm sure I was quite drunk, and I know he was, this made a lot of sense to me.
Sometimes you have to give more than you want to--sometimes a lot more--and vice-versa. Maybe overall it settles out to a 50-50 split, I don't know. But be willing to compromise.
By the way--he was married for about two or three years before the divorce.
I'm still married.
Go figure.
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