I know there is a line where society has to set a standard and protect kids but isn't a bit weird to any of you that every one of our grandparents if not our parents would be in the same boat?
Kinda, yeah. But now that I'm an adult, I know what they were doing was just learned behavior handed down since biblical times. Doesn't make it right. I smacked my son's ass with a belt once when he was 5, and it was with the least amount of force I could generate without the belt going limp before it hit him, and I felt like freaking crying after the first (and only) swat. It was the most degrading thing I could have done to him, and it made me feel like a worthless bully. So I never did it again. A person of reasonable intelligence ought to be able to convince a child that what they're doing is wrong without resorting to violence.
What my parents did (and their parents did) is just a memory, so I'm not traumatized by it anymore either. But at the same time, it didn't do anything to reduce my level of stupidity or complete disregard for authority. All it did was make me more careful about being caught. If my "dad" would have had the mental fortitude to sit down with me and actually talk, I might have had an entirely different kind of childhood. Instead, he took his anger out on me until I got yoked on steroids and took it back out on him.
Nice life lesson, "dad."
Puss.